My wife and I are a typical heterosexual couple, but we have a dirty secret: We’re swingers. No, we don’t twirl and flip to music from the 1940s; we meet other couples and have sex with each other’s partners. Due to our conservative careers and even more conservative families, we keep our sexual practices to ourselves. Only a few close vanilla friends know what we’re into (“vanilla” is the term swingers use to refer to anyone who isn’t a swinger … and also other swingers who happen to be covered in vanilla).
Here’s what we’ve learned in the several years now that we’ve been “in the lifestyle” (that’s the more subtle term swingers prefer):
7. It Can Take Years Of Negotiating
We were first were introduced to the lifestyle by two married friends, whom we’d found out from common friends’ gossip had an open relationship. This couple was attracted to …