My Wife And I Are Swingers: Here’s What It’s Actually Like

My wife and I are a typical heterosexual couple, but we have a dirty secret: We’re swingers. No, we don’t twirl and flip to music from the 1940s; we meet other couples and have sex with each other’s partners. Due to our conservative careers and even more conservative families, we keep our sexual practices to ourselves. Only a few close vanilla friends know what we’re into (“vanilla” is the term swingers use to refer to anyone who isn’t a swinger … and also other swingers who happen to be covered in vanilla).

Here’s what we’ve learned in the several years now that we’ve been “in the lifestyle” (that’s the more subtle term swingers prefer):

7. It Can Take Years Of Negotiating

We were first were introduced to the lifestyle by two married friends, whom we’d found out from common friends’ gossip had an open relationship. This couple was attracted to …

Swinging Can Add Healthy Excitement to Your Relationship

There’s nothing new, per se, about the swingers’ lifestyle. Thinking about the term conjures feathered hair, key parties, fondue, and maybe things your parents did in the ’70s you don’t need to know about. And, it means the same thing then as it does now. “Swinging means having sex with other partners, together or apart,” psychotherapist Tammy Nelson, PhD, author of The New Monogamy tells me. “It involves consensual experiences that the partners discuss before during, and after with one another, where the details are shared as much or as little as desired.”

What’s thoroughly modern about swinging, though, is the normalization of less-traditional relationship forms. ⁠For example, Silicon Valley‘s Thomas Middleditch recently declared that swinging “saved” his marriage. And while keeping an open mind to the swingers’ lifestyle won’t necessarily be so integral to the health of your relationship, checking in with yourself about your preferences might be a …

The 9 Most Common Sexual Fetishes & Why Guys Want Them

While some sexual fetishes are rather unconventional, it’s important to note that most of them are completely normal and even healthy to explore if both partners are into it. We guys know that many women don’t get why men like what we like when it comes to sex, but take a second to consider our reasoning before judging us too harshly.


Our fixation on them is so commonplace that it’s almost overlooked as a fetish, but these body parts serve no direct sexual purpose. The theories behind guys’ preoccupation with boobs are abundant, but in my opinion, the three most logical evolutionary explanations are related to reproduction. For one, healthier looking breasts may better feed a baby. Breasts also make female mates easier to spot from a distance and they allocate a certain power to women, allowing them to hypnotize men towards the bed even when we aren’t …

Stories of Cuckolding Gone Very, Very Wrong

Sometimes fantasies are best left to YouPorn.

Ever since a certain reality television star began his campaign to become president of the US, the word ‘cuckold’ resurfaced in a very odd and unavoidable way. In case you have somehow missed the last several years of right-wing discourse, the so-called alt-right use ‘cuck’ to imply liberal subservience to a culture of political correctness. This, of course, is a misappropriation of the full version of the word, which is apparently derived from the name of the cuckoo bird. Some female cuckoos change male partners and lay their eggs in other nests—a humiliating act of betrayal (insofar as birds can actually feel humiliated). This is somewhat analogous to the situation of a man who has unknowingly been cheated on by a woman. Hence the word ‘cuckold.’

Historically, being a cuckold indicated unwitting marriage to an adulterous woman—undesirable, by all accounts. But sexual appetites

Everything You Need To Know About This Incredibly Common Male Fetish

Question: My wife and I have been happily married for 30 years. We have fantasized about her having another man and, while that’s not likely to happen, I thought it might be enjoyable for both of us if she were to get a sensual massage from a man I have been corresponding with. It is a great source of stimulation for me to think about, but I have not brought it up to her at this point. Any thoughts on how to handle cuckolding fantasies?

It’s a very common fantasy, actually. For those reading who don’t know what a “cuckold” is, it’s defined by Merriam-Webster simply as, “a man whose wife is unfaithful.” The word stems from “cuckoo bird,” which is known for laying its eggs in other birds’ nests. There’s your etymology lesson for the day.

There is no shame in your fantasy game.

In modern day, it’s become …

6 Things You Need to Know About Swingers and Swinger Parties

If you are against monogamy, you probably thought about different ways to spice up your life and relationship. Fortunately, there is a solution for you. Enter swingers/swinger parties! Let’s take a look at some of the essential swinger facts that might be able to help you on your kinky journey.

Swingers Are at Risk to STDs

One of the main dangers of attending swinger parties is the increased risk of STDs. As you are aware, the entire idea of swinger parties is to go there with your partner and meet new people to have sex. Since everyone will exchange partners, it significantly increases the risk of getting an infection. 


The more partners someone changes, the bigger the chances of getting an STD are. And swingers can be quite lax when it comes to protection. Now, it would be wrong to say that all swingers are this or that. It’s

4 hot Role Play Ideas with Princess Butt Plug

Princess plugs are classy, elegant and add an extra edge to your anal play sessions. As the name says, they come in a bejeweled form and it’s hard not to fall for their royal looks. You will mostly find them in a metal body with a decorative crystal at the base. You may or may not pull out the crystal while using it.  It would be right to say princess plugs are the most beautiful of all butt plugs around.

Equal parts beautiful and equal parts classy, princess butt plugs are truly one-of-a-kind for your anal play sessions. The true connoisseurs of princess plug also love to indulge in steamy role-play sessions with their partner. Would you too like to get into some sizzling role-play fun with your princess butt plug? Hey, that’s hot and the post below offers a brief on some amazing roleplay ideas you may try with …

Comprehensive guide to taking care of your anal toys

Doubt than wash sex toys! How to get rid of factory smell on tail butt plug? Few people know that water and soap are not always enough for disinfection, and treatment with alcohol and boiling can spoil your favorite devices. As you can imagine, one of the most important rules in this list is cleanliness. Using dirty or poorly washed toys can be just as dangerous as unprotected sex with a random partner. To play with erotic devices brought only joy, they should be thoroughly cleaned before and after each use. However, not everyone knows how to do it correctly.

  • Why the usual cleaning methods are not always suitable for sex toys?
  • Water from the tap is not suitable for “delicate” materials

At first glance, the easiest way to clean your favorite and joyful vibrator or lustful dildo is to wash them with tap water. Alas, this may not affect …

Vibrator and Discreet Shipping: How to find the best offer

A vibrator is an analogue of the penis, a product that more or less accurately reproduces its appearance and functional features. Such an electromechanical device serves to stimulate the genitals or the anus, so you should not give it to others to use. The physiological effect of the vibratory massager is based on the phenomenon of resonance with the frequency of muscular contractions of the pelvic organs during orgasm. The product can be equipped with a suction cup, in which case you can fasten it on a flat solid surface. The gadget can have a variety of bumps, antennae, ribs and other irregularities that serve for additional, more powerful erogenous zone stimulation during use.

When preparing a vibrator for use, the specified number of autonomous batteries must be inserted into the device. In this case, it is necessary to observe the polarity of the batteries in accordance with the scheme …

Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Being A Cuckold (And More)

The history of this super-fascinating sexual kink.

Chances are pretty high that you’ve heard the word ‘cuckold’ before.

But how much do you know about what it really means?

Before I did a deep dive into the word cuckold and what it has always meant (and everything it means now), I just had this vague idea that a cuckold was a man worthy of mockery.

The truth is that being cuckold today means something very different from what it did when the word was first coined.

Let me share with you everything I learned about being a cuckold and cuckold culture.

The original meaning of “cuckold” is actually super old.


Cuckold originally meant being the wronged husband of an adulterous wife. In the end, it usually involves a crying husband on chastity cage.

The world cuckold itself is actually pretty darn close to being super ancient.

The first …